Recovery is a long road

I don't have post traumatic stress disorder, I do however flash back to those days in hospital and the overwhelming fear of being there again.
Recovery of the body is slow and not always complete and recovery of the mind is even slower and I'm sure never complete.
I am doing fine, I am happy most of the time and I can keep the enemy at bay with a mix of love family, friends and a whole lot of work. I enjoy worrying about work and how to improve the school I work in. I enjoy pondering what thing I can potentially fix or change so that the students in our care have a slightly better experience. In the grand scheme of things I wonder if I make much of s difference, but I make some and on days like today, that's enough.
I am there for people, I like that too. I suspect I've missed some signs and missed a few cries for help, but generally I think I do ok at that too.
I enjoyed being a coach the other day, I enjoyed saying yes to a worry and easing someones mind. I enjoy knowing I'm part of this world.
I let all this take the place of the small and persistent voice that reminds me of how my body could change all that and how easily my life could become a long and drawn out experience of asking for help, request and demands. Like my dad. Although over time he does some of those smaller things, it takes him so much energy to write a short email.
I hope he knows that when he reaches out it matters to me

I think I'll tell him.

70 today

My dad turned 70 today.
This is somewhat of a medical miracle.
I wonder often how he feels about the life he has now and the life he used to have.
At 70.
Did he expect to last this long?
To my fellow VHLers someone getting to 70 is important, is an achievement and something we think gives us hope. But I know how hard everyday must be, how difficult the routine and not just for him, but all of us.

Especially my mum. 

When someone else is ill...

My husband is unwell, I know this must be, because he has taken to bed and despite trying, he has had to stay in bed for two days.

I'm quite good at being there for him, well, I'm here and I check on him.

He keeps apologising.

He needs to rest, his illness is a virus, the Dr says the cure is rest.

He is dizzy - I thought, brain tumour.

He said I had it worse, I did.

He better get better.

Coping and worrying

I keep it in check, but I am a worrier. Having am almost teenage daughter helps me focused. My mum, with the bet of intentions told me many of her worries, I could see it on her face and I think I was trained to worry.
I don't want my daughter to worry like I do, but perhaps it's a genetic flaw I have passed on.

I hadn't realised how worried I was about my husband until I saw him starting to get better. He is recovering and I've cautioned him not to move too fast. I could do with him being well, but he isn't and I'm getting on with that, Happily, here our community or neighbours and friends make it so much easier to cope. Little things like a tin of beans after a long day and the comfort of a cup or tea and a chat.

But worried I was, I don't like seeing my strong man unable to get up.

It's made him remember, or recognise how horrible it must have been for me. Not that he ever doubted it, but until you've been dizzy for more than a few hours, you can't really understand. He knows how much worse it was for me, he was the helpless one, sitting by  my hospital bed, trying not to show it on his face in the first few days, then no longer having to hide it as I wouldn't open my eyes. I could sometimes hear the catch in hos voice when he was encouraging me to eat or convince me to have a scan I couldn't face.